Several times throughout my life I have encountered situations where friends were reluctant to tell me about their problems — physical, relationship, work, whatever. In a few of these cases they admitted that they didn’t want to seem like they were complaining about their “minor” problems to me, who had a seemingly more “major” problem.
What’s funny is that on a day-to-day basis, my “problem” of muscular dystrophy doesn’t seem major to me at all. In fact, a few of the times I was referring to above, a friend’s problem actually was quite major compared to how I felt about mine.
I’ve learned over time that everybody has their “stuff” — their lifelong or momentary challenges that at the time are their own personal opportunities to learn and grow. I have also learned never to judge someone based on their perception of the severity of their problem. Sure I might think someone is over-reacting to what’s in front of them, but I’d never brush them off because their problem seems small to me. And I’d never tell them that, either. To them, it might be the biggest problem they’ve ever encountered in their life. And for me, I can think of many problems that are much more major than anything I’ve encountered too.
It’s just important to remember that we all learn in different ways and at different times. All of life’s trials and tribulations are learning opportunities no matter how minor or major the might seem.