I spent most of the last few weeks irritated by the constant barrage of 9/11 remembrance coverage. I’m sure I’m not the only one. I have an odd attitude towards these sort of things and although I’m not exactly sure where it comes from, I can’t help but think some of it comes from having to deal with having muscular dystrophy.
When it comes to my disorder, I don’t feel the need to re-enter the dark tunnel. To me, that’s what anniversaries of things like the 9/11 attacks, or a death, or some other tragedy seems to make some people do. For some, these things may bring light and aid in their processing, but it doesn’t work for me. For me, the constant news about the 10th anniversary is/was an intrusion. I can remember and pay tribute to these sorts of events in my own way, on my own time, and usually by making a positive change.
I make no apologies for this attitude because for me, it’s a signal of resilience and an ability to deal with moving forward. I don’t make a fanfare about the negative things associated with my disorder and I surely won’t make a fanfare about other negative things that don’t impact me as strongly.
It’s not that I forget about these important things. How can you forget something like 9/11? The signs and banners shouting “Never forget” or “We will not forget” seem like they’d have an impact akin to holding up a sign that says “1+1=2.” I’m not going to forget. Are there really people alive now who will forget? I doubt it. I won’t forget about 9/11 any more than I would forget that I have muscular dystrophy.
This is just how I am. Others can do whatever they need to do to deal with traumatic events. But for me, I don’t need expensive memorials or hours and hours of TV coverage or news articles (even on the sports page) or other things like that. I am proud of my ability to move on from things and learn something and apply it to my future.
Lastly, I do hope that the families of victims are able to move on, in their own time. I also thank the troops who were activated in response to these events and their families. I know they all have their own coping mechanisms and I wish them strength.