The average number of children per family in the U.S. is 1.86. Do you know anyone who has 86/100ths of a child? That’s not even possible. This leads to my last tip of this week to parents:
Tip #5: Remember that nobody is a statistic
Let’s face it. I’m sure you’ve been searching the internet for life expectancy numbers. It something you don’t want to know but you want to know. Have you been finding any numbers you like?
I remember I looked for this myself when I was younger and I never found a firm answer. The answer was always a wide range of ages. Then when there was an average number, it was something with a decimal. Can we really get that precise?
Think about your average person. If the average life expectancy of an American is 78.1 years, does that mean that the moment you are 78.1 years old that suddenly you are going to drop dead?
See, it’s ridiculous to think about your own life expectancy, so why worry about getting a specific number for your child. You’re not going to get the right answer.
Earlier in the week I mentioned that all of life is uncertain. This is particularly true with that number you’re searching the internet to find. Why hang your hat on that number? You have no idea what is going to happen in your child’s lifetime when it comes to treatments and/or cures. Don’t give yourself a timeline.
There will be a time that you will need to make decisions and adjustments but you’ll know when that time comes. You can’t schedule it now. No two people are the same.
Focus on right now. Focus on making now a happy time. Then tomorrow focus on making that day a happy time. Then the next day. Why let an unknown future ruin your now?